When I knew I would become a stepmom, I set out to get all the knowledge that I could on the subject. One of the greatest books I read was the “The Smart Stepmom” written by Laura Petherbridge.
Laura lists a couple of characteristics that make one smart stepmom. The journey of step motherhood is sometimes very bumpy with mountains to climb and valleys to conquer. However if you have a positive attitude and you are willing to learn your family dynamics, appropriately define your role and get the necessary support, you can thrive!
Here are the 10 signs of a smart stepmom for you to get started;
- A Smart Stepmom accepts that forming a healthy stepfamily is a process that requires education, patience and compassion.
- A Smart Stepmom recognizes that children have a fierce loyalty to a biological parent—this is true even if the parent is absent, abusive, manipulative, unstable or controlling.
- A Smart Stepmom grasps that kids who are hurting are likely to be cruel. She seeks ways to build a bridge with small gestures of love and compassion.
- A Smart Stepmom understands that her stepkids are likely to be confused, angry or grieving over the loss of the original family.
- A Smart Stepmom learns how to step back, set boundaries and let dad be the parent, even when he doesn’t know how or is unwilling.
- A Smart Stepmom allows dad to have time alone with his children.
- A Smart Stepmom realizes that it’s not a slap in the face when the stepchildren view her as, “My father’s wife.”
- A Smart Stepmom acknowledges, “The children already have a mother, and it’s not me!”
- A Smart Stepmom stands beside her husband when the former spouse hurls insults, accusations and threats that are aimed at his manhood.
- A Smart Stepmom has faith that doing the right thing, even if it hurts, will ultimately bring peace to her home and soul.
Would you like to be a smart stepmom but have no clue where to begin? Contact Wendy for a private and confidential consultation and find out where you are going wrong and how you can get back on the path of success.
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