Every week this lovely month of June we will do something that is not done often enough. We will be celebrating dads. We will feature a dad, son or daughter in order to appreciate the crucial role that dads play and the impact and influence they have on their families. Today we applaud the incredible Alex Warinda, a single dad who raised four amazing young women; Nina, Rina, Emily and Leila. These four ladies give a sneak peak of how he managed to do it and what his love and sacrifice means to them.
- Describe your relationship with your father.
Apart from being our dad he is our best friend, a confidant, a brother we never had, and above all our role model. He is our ideal man, we trust him with our lives, he taught us everything from cleaning, cooking delicious meals to sewing our hems he’s the coolest dad ever. He is the only man who makes us believe there are few genuine good men in this world.
- How much time did your father spend with you?
All throughout our childhood dad spent each day with us. He would mostly leave work early and we would find he had prepared us evening tea with njugus, started working on our dinner, and helped us with our homework’s. Our dad has always been a full time dad to us he is the one who woke up first very early in the morning to prepare us for school, ensured we had breakfast and packed our lunch all this time our mum was still in bed catching her beauty sleep.
- How often did your father tell you that he loved you?
Each day since we can remember to date our dad calls us daily every evening individually since we are all grown up now and no longer staying with him. From the first born to our last born and to his grandson without fail. He is usually just checking up to see how our day was any challenges if any and to wish us a good night. To us that’s the greatest way of saying I love and care for you so much.
- What did your father teach you about life?
Our dad has taught us patience. That nothing good comes easy and the importance of allowing God’s timing in our lives. To always strive to get the best of anything our hearts desire. To accept that not everyone will view life and issues from our perspectives and therefore learn to accept it and love them all the same. Our dad has taught us the value of forgiveness, of letting go the bitterness and pain that it’s not because the offender deserves it but we do so for our own peace and healing
- What did your father teach you about love and relationships?
That you will never please everyone in this life, that you will be heartbroken and betrayed but still give your best. Those relationships are not a bed of roses. Communication and appreciation is the key. He also taught us by example that you need to know when to let go before a relationship kills you.
- What did your father do that made you happy?
We are so proud that our father during his lowest time in life became a real man and stuck with us when all hell had broken loose after his relationship with our mum was going to the dogs. He didn’t care what people said or thought of him only what we his children thought of him. He held on tight to us and never let go. This we hold dearly. He is currently building us a very beautiful lovely home which is in the final stages.
- What did your father do that made you sad?
When he said tumempikia ugali mbichi and that the meat had too much spice. We were very furious at the time since we had taken our time to fix him a good meal (Laughing out loud). Also how much he struggled when he would cycle miles just to come see us when he and mum were separated before they divorced, it was the most painful sight ever of our dad.
- What is your fondest memory of your father?
(Laughs) When he used to have afro hair and we would plait him, he used to have a motorbike and he would carry us around and every Friday. He still roasts meat for us to date. He also enjoys music and dancing. Every evening he would play some music and ask us to dance and reward the best dancer.
- Describe how you are like your father.
Patient, have a big heart, give our best in any situation. We like good living hence we give ourselves the best we can and live in the moment, to the fullest. Tunajiachilia vi deadly (Laughs)
- What do you wish you could tell your father?
That we, together with his grandson are super proud of him and we shall forever love him. That we value and appreciate him. Never in a million years would we wish anything different from what we have. We wouldn’t choose any other father and he is the greatest blessing in our lives. We are the women we are today because of how he molded us and brought us up. He is tough when he needs to, alituchapa sana tukiwa watoi yet so sweet when things were ok. We are the Warinda daughters!
BEST FATHERS DAY EXPERIENCE/MEMORY
Ever since our mum left us we ensured that every Valentine’s Day we took our dad out for valentines’ dinner bought him a cake, card and his favorite drink. We shared and laughed our pain away……